What does the Bible say about cheating.

     At work a few days ago, we were discussing some of the signs that a spouse is cheating in a relationship. Although we were laughing at most of the signs people brought up, cheating is not a laughing matter. The one cheating might be enjoying it for the moment, but there are consequences that comes with every action one takes in life. No sinner will go unpunished. There are two types of cheating, emotional (emotional involvement, may involve sex) and physical (no emotional involvement, e.g spending more time with someone else other than your spouse). "Balance is the Key to Life."
        Some of the signs that your spouse is cheating:
This is not in anyway a complete list, rather a highlight of some obvious sign of cheating.
1. Spending a lot of time in the computer or private phone calls- for instance when the cell phone rings, he/she might grab the phone quickly and slowly walk away.
2. Sudden change in routine
3. looking for the slightest reason to argue.
4. Too Happy / or moody - This one was added by my co-worker, unusually happy.
5. enrolls in a rigorous workout or dieting.
6. Avoids spending time with you.
         
 The question now is what does the bible say about cheating?
Although the word cheating in the context of marriage does not appear in the bible, the elements that make up the act is clearly addressed in the word of God. The bible says that if you love your neighbor, you will not take anything that belongs to him, this includes his property, their wife or husband. James 4:17So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin. Proverbs 12:22 Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight. Galatians 6:7-8 Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. Colossians 3:9 Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices. I must say that one needs to first put off self, which you do by giving your life to Christ. It is then that you receive the strength to withstand all the firey darts of the enemy. These darts can come in different forms and one way can be covetiousness and lust of the flesh which can ultimately lead to cheating. Luke 6:31 And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.

    Lastly, Hebrews 13:4, Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

How important is communication in your relationship?

When you mention communication to anyone, they'll quickly tell you how important communication is in any relationship. However, very few people are able to keep communication flowing and open in their relationship. Very many will quickly argue for the effectiveness of communication in any relationship. Why then is the divorce rate moving higher and higher each time?.Currently, the divorce rate is 60% in the united states.
Nothing is too little to discuss with your spouse. Make a decision on your own to communicate your feelings from a minor offense to even communicating your needs and feelings in the bedroom. The more you communicate with each other the closer your bond with each other.
Question of the day then is, how solid is your communication sytem of your relationship?
Please give tips on how someone can effectively build communication in the relationship.

Remember you too can make your marriage work!

Becoming One Takes time and willingness

       Research has found an increase in the trend of unmarried couples living together in the United States and this group has had the highest separation rate than their married counterpart. Let me tell you, the marriage vow is just a promise that you make to each other in the presence of God. After that, what follows is diligently working hard to keep that promise you made. An understanding of this will give you a completely different prospective on the journey of marriage.Why then do couples separate before the harvest that comes as a result of that seed which is the promise to become one?
     Ephesians 5:31 says...that a man and his wife shall become one flesh. This I tell you takes some time, the wedding vow is a promise not to give up on each other no matter what the case maybe; inspite of your differences, sickness and successes.
      It is critical that one understand the differences between men and women in making your marriage work. These differences are elements that can easily build and can also be the forces that break it apart. Love simply helps you to see the good in someone even if he/she cannot see it for herself.
     A lot of people do not know how to maintain what they have through contentment. Throughout my research on marriage, I have found that contentment is one of the most important keys in unlocking bliss for an enjoyable love/marriage relationship in life.

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Making Marriage work: Relationships and social networking. To add or not...

Making Marriage work: Relationships and social networking. To add or not...: " Sitting for lunch, chatting about facebook and the great advances it has made as far as communication. Communication has been greatly..."

Relationships and social networking. To add or not to add as friend.

  Sitting for lunch, chatting about facebook and the great advances it has made as far as communication. Communication has been greatly enhanced from the days of telegram and land line. Does anyone even remember what a home land phone looks like. Anyway, sitting with two male co-workers, we started talking about facebook and some negative impact it has had on relationships.
  There are stories of old flames reuniting or rekindling if you might call it that. If someone is in a relatinship and finds a friends request from an "ex", should he or she accept? Are there some exceptions to the rule or once it's over should it stay over?
Are Social networking sites encouraging infidelity in relatinship and marriage?

    Remember you too can make your Marriage/relationship Work!

Making Marriage Work.

            Welcome to A Blissful Marriage blogspot.
      God has a great plan for your marriage and relationship. Marriage is the foundation of every society and deserves to be given a chance to blossom. It is through marriages that families are formed, through which great societies are founded. Making Marriage Work is the main focus of this blogspot, here we will have the opportunity to talk about relationships, answer questions and give advise on issues that arise in relationships. We will try our best in answering some of so called "tough" issues that often present itself in marriage or relationship.
    Although I have been married for just a few years, I have been privileged to uncover some secrets and truth behind some of the world's greatest marriages through close association and access to valuable materials like great books written on the topic.
     Please feel free to post questions and advise, as we work as a community of people in tackling relationship issues.
          You too can make your marriage work!